Quoted from Zig Ziglar short stories.
'We get comfort from those who agree with us and growth from those who don't'
In today's world of societal and corporate change, job security is a thing of the past. While we must face the fact that change is inevitable, we should also realise that many
changes are positive and benefit both individuals and groups.
Some things you can change and some you can't. You cannot change when you were born, where you were born, how you were born, or to who you were born. It's a fact that if you were born Chinese you will always be a Chinese and if you both a Malay you will remain as a Malay. It's a fact that you cannot change a single event that has already happened. You can't change one whisper of yesterday. Tomorrow, however, is an entirely different matter.
If you're willing to change your thinking today, you can change your life and your living to make your tomorrow better and brighter.
Just to share a story quoted from
http://changingminds.org/blog/0601blog/060127blog.htm
The Conquering Spirit
The eleven king called together his three sons. "It is time for you to make your mark." he told them, "Beyond our borders are unknown worlds of dragons, maidens and black-hearted knights. Go out and conquer."
And so his sons ate the feast of the departing, donned the green and set out across the world.
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After three years, the first son returned and the whole court came out to greet him. "What have you conquered?" asked the king.
"I have slain dragons, rescued maidens and vanquished black knights." spoke the son. "I have conquered lands such that our territories are now doubled in size."
"Boldly done!" said the king, gravely, "Those new lands shall be your kingdom to rule and protect."
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After three more years, the second son returned, and the whole family came out to greet him.
"What have you conquered?" asked the king.
"I have parlayed with dragons, negotiated with black knights and made the maidens fair swoon." replied the son. "I have conquered the minds and hearts of ten kingdoms, and we now have fond allies all of the way to the Azure Sea."
"Brightly done!" cried the king, "You shall be my most noble lord, ambassador in my stead to all of the lands."
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After three more years, the third son did not return. After three further years, he still did not return. After three years again, a ragged stranger walked alone up the steps to the royal court.
The old king was the only person to recognize the stranger. He came down from his throne, embraced his third son deeply, and then asked, "What have you conquered?"
The son smiled a long smile.
"I have slept with dragons and caroused with knights. I have danced with maidens and sung with the children. I have laughed with old men on the quay and cried with old women left alone. I have howled at the moon and lain in the sun. I have scaled high mountains and seen distant lands of mystery and promise. I have plumbed the depths and met magicians of the mind.
"I lost some fear and gained some wonder. I lost some of myself and found some of other people. I tore down the walls of ignorance and found many more. And I have found my way home. I have no need to conquer or fight or persuade. Today is now enough for a lifetime."
A deep silence fell over the court as the king thought long and fully about what his son had said.
"Wisely done." he said, eventually, "For you have conquered yourself, and the world and the worlds beyond shall be your playground."
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Analyse your situation, Have you gone as far as you can go and are you doing as well as you can with present procedures? If so, don't be afraid to take two steps back if it will enable you to move three steps forward. Don't be afraid to face your fear, if by overcoming it can bring you further. Don't be afraid to go against the norm (as long as it is legal), if it can help you to become a better person.
If you find that your child is not performing as good as his friends, or is not behaving as what you want him to be. Don't fret but look at what he is doing, ask him what is his purpose of doing this or what is obstructing him for performing.
What we are asking him to do, could be what we desire him to be, but may not be who he want to be.
Let them to explore and grow. Give them to space to change.
Last but not least, allow yourself to change too.
