We know that our children sometimes really irritate us. Yet, we know that they are not bad children. It's simply that their responses and thought patterns are different from us. We must know that children have quirks of behaviour and personality.
We get frustrated easily because we can't understand why our child is not more like us. Trying to change his personality to match ours is as pointless and futile as trying to change our child's physical features to make him or her look like us completely.
The key to reducing our frustration over our child's quirks of behaviour, and to communicate with him or her, is to understand and accommodate our child's unique personality.
Every child is predisposed toward certain personality characteristics. These learning reflect his or her genetic inheritance, birth order and early environment.
A child's personality traits direct his or her preferences for responding to life and his or her communication style. For instance, just because a child is right-handed, doesn't mean the child never used his or her left hand. The child may prefer his or her right hand strongly, rarely using his or her left hand. The more the child practices on his or her handedness preference, the more the child relies on it with confidence. Similarly, the more a child responds in line with his or her personality predisposition, the stronger that styles becomes in the child.
