Identify - Then Solve - The Problem

Quoted from Zig Ziglar

Watch out for phony or easy solutions to complex problems. When you spot a quack, duck.

Fortunately, problems are an everyday part of our lives. Consider this: If there were no problems, most of us would be unemployed. Realistically, the more problems we have and the larger they are, the greater our values to our employer.

Of course, some problems are small, like opening a ketchup bottle. Others are monumental, like a seriously ill or injured child or mate, which presents ongoing, daily complications. Successful living comes when we learn to handle those business and personal problems with as little fanfare as possible. The successful business executive can handle challenges and solve problems at a remarkable clip. He or she makes quick and final decisions as a result of years of experience. The homemaker with small children at home handles many "catastrophes" each hour with the same dispatch.

Many people use counterproductive methods to deal with problems:
1) They refuse to recognize them,
2) deny responsibility for them,
3) pretend they will go away if they ignore them, or are
4) just flat insensitive to them.

The first step in solving a problem is to recognize that it does exist. Next, we determine whether the problem is our responsibility. If the answer is yes, we must determine how serious and/or urgent it is. When that last determination is made, we either take immediate action if the problem is simple and quickly solvable or develop a plan of action and prioritize it if the solution is more difficult and time-consuming.
KEY POINTS:
1) Recognize that problem does exist
2) Determine whether the problem is our responsibility
3) Determine how serious and/or urgent the problem is
4) Take immediate action if the problem is simple and quickly solvable or develop a plan of action and  prioritize it if the solution is more difficult and time-consuming.

Problem solving becomes a very important part of our makeup as we grow into maturity or move up the corporate ladder. I encourage you to take the time to define the problem correctly, learn the skill or quick analysis and remember, if it weren't for problems in your life, your position might not be necessary in the first place. Ironing out the wrinkles and solving the problems are what most jobs are about.
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Just for laugh
Small boy to mom: "You should be proud you have a child with enough guts to bring home a report card like that. Besides, you know I didn't cheat."

Apply the key points not just for yourself, but also teach them to your children. Children do also face with many problems. They need to learn how to overcome their problems, if not, they may run away from the problems in the future. Some of the problems they face includes:
1) Friendship issues
2) Bullying
3) School homeworks; exams; activities
4) How to pack their bags
Etc.
Teach them today, and they will be able to overcome in the future.

Overcoming Fear

Quoted from Zig Ziglar

Fear is the dark room where negatives are developed

Fear has been correctly identified with the acrostic False Evidence Appearing Real. The truth is that if we think something is to be feared, that perception becomes the cruelest form of reality.

A second-grade boy was overheard saying, "It's easy to be brave when you're not scared." By the same token, it's easy to talk about how to overcome fear when you have little to be afraid of. Fear is certainly real for some people and all of us face a fear of something - maybe it's  poverty, divorce, rejection, death, failure, speaking in public, or being laughed at.

How do we overcome fear? First, we must learn to examine our fears. Giving a speech is the number one fear in our country, according to Reader's Digest. (It's also a tremendous confidence-builder.) If that's your fear, ask yourself a few questions:

1) Why am I afraid to make a speech?
2) Is it because I'am afraid of being rejected?
3) If so, do I think I'll be rejected?
4) Do I believe what I'm about to say?
5) Is my speech worth giving?
6) Am I proud of the comments I'm about to make?

As you ask yourself these questions, the fear will begin to subside. It subsides because you have explored your subconscious mind with your questions and flushed out some of your fears.

My research indicates that only three people have died while making a speech. Since twelve billion people have lived and only three of them died making a speech, I'd say it's fairly safe thing to do. If you're a little nervous, consider this: You could lead a mule into a crowded room and he would be so calm that he would almost go to sleep standing up. A thoroughbred in the same situation would be as nervous as a cat. If you're a little nervous, just be grateful you're a thoroughbred - not a mule. So face those inner feelings, stand up, and speak with confidence.

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If some adults have difficulty facing their fears, it will be the same for children.
Parents, if you notice that your child is facing some fears, instead of just telling him to be brave and faced it, try to understand their fears. Ask him to share with you what is it that he actually fear. Explore it with them. Encourage them to try out different ways to overcome it, while letting them know that you are supporting them.