Unique Behaviour and Personalities

 

  Different Children, Different Needs - Dr. Charles F. Boyd & David Boehi

We know that our children sometimes really irritate us. Yet, we know that they are not bad children. It's simply that their responses and thought patterns are different from us. We must know that children have quirks of behaviour and personality.

We get frustrated easily because we can't understand why our child is not more like us. Trying to change his personality to match ours is as pointless and futile as trying to change our child's physical features to make him or her look like us completely.

The key to reducing our frustration over our child's quirks of behaviour, and to communicate with him or her, is to understand and accommodate our child's unique personality.

Every child is predisposed toward certain personality characteristics. These learning reflect his or her genetic inheritance, birth order and early environment.

A child's personality traits direct his or her preferences for responding to life and his or her communication style. For instance, just because a child is right-handed, doesn't mean the child never used his or her left hand. The child may prefer his or her right hand strongly, rarely using his or her left hand. The more the child practices on his or her handedness preference, the more the child relies on it with confidence. Similarly, the more a child responds in line with his or her personality predisposition, the stronger that styles becomes in the child.

Every Child is Unique

I am starting on another new book sharing that will help us to learn to communicate properly with our children. This book will compliment the previous book - 

By Vicki Caruana Giving Your Child the Excellence Edge

One thing that we need to know is that every Child is unique, even twin are unique in their own way.

When children are born, they come with an inheritance. It comes from the gene pool of each parent. It might not be seen at first, but it gradually unfolds. 

If you have three children, it's as though you picked up one from A, one from B and one from C. They're all different, aren't they? Each child think differently, acts differently and communicates differently. Read how some parents describe their children:

• My son has a big mouth. He's loud and goes on and on.
• My girl is a puke queen. She loves puking, especially in the car.
• My son talks first and thinks later.
• My girl is so absentminded. She seems to be thinking about too many things at the same time.
• I wonder if my son has any feelings. He always has to be right, even when it makes his friends dislike him. But he doesn't seem to care.
• My girl is seven. But even now she has a place for everything, and she isn't satisfied unless everything is in its place before she goes to bed at night. Me? I let everything lie where it falls. But does she ever get after me about that!

And so on.

Did you notice some of the words used to describe the children - lost, puke queen, absentminded? Do these words sound negative or positive? Are these traits you would want to change in your child, or could you accept them?

What if each trait or characteristic is the way God uniquely created your child, and it's your task to understand your child?